Having worked in the mental health field for over 15 years, I have come to believe that the essential task of psychotherapy is to assist my clients with their problems by becoming more connected to their authentic selves. Although clients have come to work with me for differing problems, one essential universal problem I have seen every client cope with is an abandonment of or distancing from one’s self. This usually occurs because we have been told, quite often from birth, that our inherent qualities are somehow wrong or inadequate, that our feelings are invalid, and our thoughts are incorrect.
Over time, people stop believing in themselves. They stop listening to themselves, and they listen too much to others. When difficult problems arise in life, this lack of connection to the self can make coping with and/or solving such problems much more difficult than they should or need to be. That said, there are times clients come with what I call “real life” problems they need help coping with.
I invite anyone into my practice who is suffering from mental or physical illness, who is willing to grow and change, anyone who needs a supportive ear and honest feedback. I see my role as a psychotherapist to share my clients’ burdens, and while this is not always easy, it is the challenge and privilege of doing this very important work.